it is no longer a secrate that the base of relationship between male & female is SEX. Now the secrate is, the sweetness of relationship is deeply related to the quality of LOVE PLAY. According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. It makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all. Are you making her eyes rolling back with screams..
Sunday, June 13, 2010
8 'Hand Moves' that Will Max Her Pleasure
We all know that a good hand job can do the trick for guys, so why not try it on your girl and see what it can do for her? For the most part, men need only a few good strokes to get them to the end result, but women need a little more than that. Check out how to give her the sensual stroking of her life.
Some Do’s and Don’ts Before You Get Started
Do remember that this is not a race! Be prepared to spend some time down there if you really want to make her climax like never before.
Don’t go straight for her clitoris! Yeah, that may be where most of her pleasure-hungry nerves are, but if you get there too quick, your touch will feel more annoying than hot!
Do listen and make sure that your in touch (pun intended) with what’s working or not for her.
Don’t stop until you’re finished—or she’s finished rather.
The Hand Moves that Will Max Her Pleasure
• Start by having her lie on her back naked and begin with things like kissing and caressing her lips, face, neck, breasts, etc., and then SLOWLY make your way south. Once you’re down below the waist, take the time to rub and caress her all around her sweet spot until it seems that she can’t take the teasing anymore.
• When you’re ready to move to her womanhood, use your entire hand. With your palm down, rub the area lightly at first and then add a little more pressure.
• She should be getting wet by now, but if not, take some lube or massage oil and pour a little on just above her pubic bone and massage it down and around her vagina.
• Now you can move onto using your fingers. With your index finger; run it gently up and down along her slit and then around the sides of her ‘lips’. The point of this is to tease her and make her crave your finger inside of her. The teasing and anticipation will send her through the roof.
• Next, let your finger graze her clitoris for a second and tease the rest of her womanhood with it. Each time you pass her clitoris, let your finger linger a little longer until you can see that it’s swollen with excitement and rock hard. (Yes, women get ‘boners’ too!)
• Now that she’s really turned on; run your finger in a couple of tiny circles over her clitoris and then slide it down her slit and slowly push it inside of her and push it in and out slowly a few times before puling it back out.
• Now it’s time to focus even more attention on her clitoris. Use your index and middle fingers and put them on each side of her nub so you’re holding it between your fingers. Now start to move it up and down. This move is basically like jerking her off, only instead of your manhood, you’re jerking off a hard little nub! Keep at it until you can see that she’s getting close to climaxing.
• When she’s writhing around all over the bed and almost there; slide two fingers inside of her and use your thumb to start rubbing her nub as your fingers pump in and out of her. Imagine that you’re trying to get the pad of your thumb to meet and work in unison with the pads of the two fingers that are inside of her, the same way that you would to snap your fingers.
• Continue this move and add more pressure and speed as you go along. She’ll make it clear when you’ve found the ideal tempo and if not, then just ask her if it feels good. When you know you’ve got the right amount of speed and pressure then keep at it and don’t stop until she orgasms!
Extra Tips
• Pay attention to her body and her voice so you know when what you’re doing feels right. It can be a little hard to know if she’s loving it if she’s one of those shy girls who isn’t too comfortable making noise in bed, in which case you need to ask. A simple “You like that baby?” or “how does that feel?” should suffice.
• Keep the lube handy since some brands tend to dry up quickly and become a little sticky. You want stuff to be slick and smooth but not so lubed that she can’t feel your fingers!
• Try to use your other free hand on the rest of her body while you’re working your magic down below.
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• Be patient!! Sensual stroking is about getting her off and that can take some time, so don’t start something that you’re not willing to finish!
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Foreplay Tips for Him
by Gabrielle Moore
So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do…
Well, lucky you! I’ve compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that you can have her breathing hard and lusting for your touch tonight!
Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay
Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples… HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!
Don’t forget her neck. Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex’. Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.
Mentally ‘sex her up’. It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood’. So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.
For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to fuck you tonight”. Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clit so good that…” I think you get my drift by now…
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Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!
Slow dance… while butt-naked. Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!
Go ‘under the table’. I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (subscriber name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her…
Without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!
Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.
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Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!
I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clit and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and foreplay and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.
Enjoy!
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Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Proven TIPS
2. Whisper in her ear – Your woman’s ears aren’t just perfect for listening to you talk about your day at the work. They’re actually a very sensual part of her body. Plus, they’ll directly connect you to the most sexual organ in her entire body: her brain. Lean close to her and whisper in her ear. The gentle rush of warm air along her ear will send tingles down her spine. And if you’re saying some naughty words about what you want to do the non-ear parts of her body you’ll probably get quite a rise out of her.
3. Give her neck some attention – While you’re whispering in her ear, your hands can be working their magic on her neck. For some reason, the base of the neck where it connects to the shoulders and upper back is full of nerve endings that would love to send shots of pleasure rushing through her whole body courtesy of your fingertips so don’t disappoint them. Gently stroke her lower neck with your fingers and when you’re not whispering in her ear you could also cover it with delicate kisses and maybe even a little lick.
4. Stroke her hair – You may love the way her hair smells after a shampoo or the way it feels draped over your chest after a round of passionate sex, but you probably don’t show it the attention SHE wishes you would. A woman’s scalp is super sensitive and each strand of her hair is connected to it. Imagine what that means when you start stimulating thousands of those strands at one time! Remember women aren’t just playing with their hair to look cute or flirtatious; they do it because it feels amazing for them, too. Just start running your hands over her hair and she’ll start to melt. Some women even go crazy when their partners brush their hair for them.
5. Massage her back – What woman can resist a sensual massage? None that I’ve ever met! And there’s a good reason. A woman’s back is teaming with nerve endings just waiting for stimulation. Of course, each woman is different in terms of where the sweet spots tend to be. Some prefer the areas just under the shoulder blades; others get weak with a few strokes on their lower back. Part of the fun for you will be discovering all of the best places for your fingers, hands, tongue, and lips to enjoy her body. If you really want to experiment, take a feather and light stroke her back with it. The moaning you hear now will only be a prelude to what you’ll be hearing in the bedroom.
6. Touch her lips – You’d probably be surprised to discover just how many tiny nerves can be found in those soft, sweet lips that have kissed you and which have probably given you hours of pleasure in other ways. Now you can repay the favor by giving them some much needed attention. Kiss her. Start with very gentle kisses, then gradually become more intense and passionate. If you want to start even more slowly, run the tip of your finger across her lips to give her goose bumps all over her body.
7. Ignore her breasts for awhile – Men love breasts, and women love men to love their breasts. But we love having you love the rest of us first. If you really want to work your woman into a frenzy, work on stimulating all of her body you can reach without removing any of her clothing. When she’s already highly aroused – and you’ll definitely be able to tell – then start stroking, kissing, and licking her breasts and nipples. Your devotion to the rest of her beautiful body won’t go to waste.
12 Nights of Passion: a SEX Game
by Gabrielle Moore
Sex games can be as easy or as complicated as you want them to be. There are those where you just whip out a sex game board and be done with it in a few minutes – nothing wrong with that! – but there are also those that take some time in its execution.
Your sex life should never be a routine. That’s why it’s important to engage in BOTH simple and more complex sex games. One benefit of the latter is that the longer you delay actual lovemaking, the hotter you guys are by that time!
12 Nights of Passion
This sex game is designed for super extended foreplay. The goal is to reach the 12th night without having intercourse, making the 12th night one of intense passion. Here’s a sample outline you can use.
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1st night – Have a romantic dinner either at home or at a fancy restaurant. While dining, play footsie and/or indulge in a little bit of groping underneath the table.
2nd night - Sprinkle red roses in bed, light some candles and play some soft music, and then just cuddle each other till you sleep.
3rd night – Play strip poker and once all your or your partner’s clothes are off, engage in a little dry rubbing, but that’s it! Don’t engage in having sex.
4th night – Play “silent dirty words”. Get a pen and blank sheet of paper each. Write a dirty word or phrase on the piece of paper, tear it off and hand it to your lover. Your lover reads it and then drops it in a bowl. Now it’s her turn to write another dirty word or phrase and hand it off to you. Do not talk in between this exercise. Just write, show the words and that’s it. The ‘loser’ is the one who runs out of dirty words first. (You will notice that at the end of this exercise, you guys have just collected a bowl of dirty phrases you can use for a future game!) After the game has ended, laugh it off, have a bowl of ice cream or something and go to bed.
5th night – Play sexy twister. Take out the twister mat or board and play a traditional game of twister… naked.
6th night – It’s the sixth day, give yourselves a little bit of reprieve by engaging in some hot oral sex. You can bring each other to a climax but do NOT engage in intercourse.
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7th night – “Accidentally” leave out some adult-rated reading material for your lover to see and glance over. Make sure the erotica is hot enough to really bring about lust in your partner. When she asks you about it, feign innocence!
8th night – Give each other a sexual massage. Be naughty and daring but do not engage in lovemaking. You can engage in oral pleasure but not to the point of bringing on a climax.
9th night – Give your partner a call at an odd hour of the day, say 2 PM or whenever she least expects it, and engage in some phone sex. Don’t go too far; just get each other excited. After that, say you probably dialed the wrong number and hang up, or change your voice to ‘normal’ and simply say “love you honey, see you tonight for dinner” and then hang up.
10th night – Go online together tonight and preview a few adult-rated literotica.
11th night – Send naughty messages to your lover all throughout the day! Send a sex joke via SMS, email a long and dirty joke, and others. By the time you see each other tonight, pretend like nothing happened!
12th night – Shoot a short erotic video of yourself. Don’t go all the way. Instead, at the end of the video, look into the camera and tell your lover where you should meet tonight. It can be a hotel room, motel room or your own bedroom but fancily dressed up. The minute your lover enters the location you indicated on the video, do not engage in foreplay whatsoever! After all these days, you’re pent up passions will be enough for one of the hottest moments of your life!
The 12 Nights of Passion is designed to bring about so many things in your relationship. It’s a sex game of creativity and control. But its real goal is to make each day one of heightened sexual pleasure and longing for each other. Can you imagine how you guys will come together by the 12th night after all that waiting and sexual highs and lows?!? Give this extended sex game a try and be sure to do it more than once a year!
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Tuesday, June 1, 2010
ORAL -KEY to SUCCESS
Foreplay is your best friend.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women need to be mentally sexed up first. Foreplay works on so many levels for women: it gets the ‘juices’ flowing even if they are not keen to have sex to begin with, and it greatly helps them reach an orgasm!
So engage in heavy foreplay before you go down on her. This way you shorten the time it takes for her to reach her climax.
Hey, what’s the rush?
A lot of men think that that the faster and harder they lick, the better. Wrong. If you do this all the time, we women feel what is called ‘clit burn’. Yes, that sensitive spot of ours feels like it’s slowly on fire and it can be really uncomfortable and even downright painful for some.
So take it SLOW at different times. Vary the speed, motion and position of your tongue and your partner will be mush under you!
Blow.
Lift your head and slowly blow hot breath on her down there. It’s a great break for your tongue and introduces a whole new sensation for her.
Liquid chocolate.
Ah, the many wonders of liquid chocolate. Take a step back and squirt liquid chocolate on her down there. Squeeze the thick syrup right at the top and let it slowly and agonizingly drip down the length of her. It will driver her nuts!
You have fingers, use them.
It doesn’t always have to be your tongue doing the work; use your fingers too. Use your index finger to graze up and down her inner and outer labia (vaginal folds) and then rub lazy circles around her C-spot. As her clitoris is visibly engorged, you can even use your fingers to GENTLY squeeze or tug at it. You can also use your thumb to gently flick her clitoris back and forth.
Let modern technology help you.
Go ahead bring out her vibrator and use it on her C-spot while you take a much needed break. It doesn’t need to be set on the highest vibrating power at all. Remember, it’s just to keep things going. So put it on ‘gentle mode’ so that she just gets a slight buzz… and then let your tongue do the real thing!
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Monday, May 17, 2010
Cunnilingus - know it!
Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus!
This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ‘scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.
If your partner is a cunnilingus virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that cunnilingus brings.
How to Persuade Your Partner to Engage in Cunnilingus
Discuss, not dictate.
The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being muff dived yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, talk to her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding cunnilingus so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).
Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.
Try, not force.
As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think cunnilingus is not pleasurable at all!
Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.
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So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together… that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked gentler to make her relax.
Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.
Explore, not just apply.
Although she may be a cunnilingus virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like being finger fucked while being licked, others don’t. And so on.
So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.
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Encourage trust, not misgiving.
Again, since this is her first time with cunnilingus, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole cunnilingus thing anymore.
Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that cunnilingus is no big deal.
Make it all about HER pleasure.
Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.
Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.
Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!
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Friday, May 14, 2010
DONTS in FORE PALY
Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried away… to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines.
Well, to avoid these foreplay booboos, here’s a list of Ten Foreplay DON’TS.
In General…
Take a shower and be properly groomed. I’m not talking about going to a salon here. Just ensure that your breath and body are clean. Also, if you’re planning to do some ‘poking’, ensure that you cut your nails down. Nothing hurts more than long nails, or can be more disgusting (in case you poke into something and er… take out something with your nails! Yuck!)
Put on some music. Foreplay can be a very embarrassingly noisy event (wet slapping noises, an escaped fart or two, etc.). To hide these sounds, drown them out with a bit of sexy music.
Don’t OVER-tongue him/her. Don’t ram your tongue into your partner’s eardrums or throat. It can be a complete turn off if he/she feels the need to tilt his/her head (from having clogged ears) or feels the need to gag.
Don’t embarrass him/her. I once advised a client to ‘start foreplay early during the day’ and mentioned some of my ‘foreplay moves’ like rubbing against each other, dry humping, footsie playing, etc. Well, I guess my client got carried away as she tried footsie playing with him during a business dinner. She thought she was being ‘naughty’, he thought it was annoying. Moral lesson? Know WHEN to make your moves.
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For Him...
Don’t twirl, tweak and twist her nipples hard. No. Despite what you often see in adult films, she really doesn’t like it if you play too roughly with her nipples. They need to be caressed, not manhandled.
Don’t be the one to request to turn the lights off. Almost all women have body image issues. So don’t do her a favor by asking to have the lights off. In contrast, she’ll immediately think you find her body offensive in some way. If she’s not exactly the ‘cover girl’ type, don’t over compliment her either because she’ll know you’re lying. Instead, just tell her you prefer women with ‘curves’.
Don’t go for G-spot stimulation if you don’t know what the hell you’re doing! Sure, G-spot stimulation can bring her almost sexual nirvana but it can be painful for her if you don’t know what you’re doing. I’m not saying don’t attempt it. Rather, be very attuned to how she responds to your fingers.
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For Her...
Don’t ask him to wear a thong. Ladies, despite what you hear about the ‘metrosexual man’, don’t ask him to put on a thong. It really does turn most men OFF.
Don’t smother him. He’s gone down on you and boy do you love it! You’re delirious with pleasure and because of this you… try to squeeze your thighs shut and/or start to grab his hair and knead his face against your crotch. Well, let’s see what you’re REALLY doing to him hear. With the first one, you’re like a praying mantis trying to squeeze and rip his head off. With the second one, you’re making it hard for him to breathe! Ease up girls. Show your appreciation the RIGHT way and he’s bound to lick you to the ends of the earth again.
Don’t expect him to read your mind. One of the worse things you can do during foreplay is to expect him to know exactly what you want to happen. With this attitude, you’re really setting yourself (and him) for a foreplay disaster. Let him know that you like what he’s doing to you, or better yet, TELL him EXACTLY what you want done. He’ll appreciate it and you get what you want. Win-win!
Foreplay is all about increasing sexual tension in a way that is pleasurable for you and your partner in more than just the sexual sense. It should be in an atmosphere of comfort and trust, and maybe even with a hint of sexual danger, and not be forced or selfish in any way.
Think about this the next time you engage in foreplay with your partner and you’re bound to have a great and sexually thrilling time!
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Saturday, April 24, 2010
Sexual Massage Techniques
by Gabrielle Moore
A sexual massage is just something I LOVE to receive from my partner. It always relaxes my body and my mind, and never fails to stir my center till I’m all wet and ready to have mind-blowing sex!
I’m sure you want your woman to feel this too so I’m going to give you some basic sexual massage moves you can do tonight. Ready?
How to Give Your Woman a Sexual Massage
In addition to ensuring that you have the right environment (i.e., a quiet room, a well-laid out bed or place on the floor, etc.) and equipment (e.g. scented candles, massage oils, etc.), consider making use of fabric or items made of silk, satin and velvet as well. All these different textures can help bring about different reactions from her. If you don’t have them, don’t worry. Nothing can beat the best part of this sexual massage session: you.
Firstly, ask your woman to undress (or better yet, undress her). Another tip here to ensure good hygiene is to give her a warm bath first. Either way, once she’s nude, have her lie face down on the area you prepared for the massage. While she has her back to you, undress as well.
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Use your hot breath.
Make sure your body and hands are not cold and then lie on top of her (you facing the back of her head). Support your weight on your arms (don’t crush her!). This move does three things: it signals the start of the sexual massage by applying pressure on her whole body; it helps to warm her body and prepare it for the massage; and it starts to introduce sexual thoughts into her head because she can feel your penis between her thighs.
Now don’t get carried away here and start sex. Proceed with the sexual massage and you will be rewarded as the sexual tension builds up!
Now, start to breath on her neck and her back. Your hot breath should stimulate her sensitive skin.
Use your fingertips.
Now, pull yourself up and straddle her thighs (your penis resting between the backs of her legs), put some warm oil on your hands and start to massage her back with just your fingertips. Alternate your strokes. Apply hard, pressured ones with light touches.
Palm circling.
Progress from using your fingers to ‘palm circling’, which is basically massaging her back by applying the whole width of your hand. This is a firmer technique that helps her body really relax. As a general rule, never massage her on the bones. Place the palms of both your hands on her back and move them in circles, firmly outward and away from her spine.
Gliding.
Scoot yourself lover down her body. You buttocks should be by her feet now. Now reach to the top of her shoulders and start doing the palm circling massage… but this time, glide down to her ass and start massaging there too. After a few strokes, you can be naughtier with this one.
Reach to the top of her shoulders again but this time, keep your head low so that your face is right in front of her ass. (Like kneeling and bowing to someone.) You can do the palm circling again while breathing hot and heavy against her ass.
A slight – and naughtier variation – would be to lick her ass instead of breathing your hot breathe on it WHILE palm circling her back. (Hey, don’t forget the massage part even while you’re busy sexually arousing her.)
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Thumbing.
Go back to straddling her thighs, sitting up now, and use your thumbs to massage her lower back. You should make short, rapid, alternate strokes with each thumb, moving up and across her ass toward her waist. Continue up the right-hand side of her body all the way to the shoulders. Repeat this on the left side of her body and finish off by going back and concentrating again on her lower back (just above her butt).
Now for the sexual part… continue to thumb massage her while your hands move slowly down her butt. Part her crack and start to thumb massage her anus. She will try to squirm here but be firm! If she can take it, alternate between this massage and breathing your hot breathe on her anus.
Repeat all these back massages as long as you want! Just remember to oil up often as the warm oil and the gliding effect of your skin on hers does a lot of sexual magic!
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Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Fore Play - the key to success
Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried away… to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines.
Well, to avoid these foreplay booboos, here’s a list of Ten Foreplay DON’TS.
In General…
Take a shower and be properly groomed. I’m not talking about going to a salon here. Just ensure that your breath and body are clean. Also, if you’re planning to do some ‘poking’, ensure that you cut your nails down. Nothing hurts more than long nails, or can be more disgusting (in case you poke into something and er… take out something with your nails! Yuck!)
Put on some music. Foreplay can be a very embarrassingly noisy event (wet slapping noises, an escaped fart or two, etc.). To hide these sounds, drown them out with a bit of sexy music.
Don’t OVER-tongue him/her. Don’t ram your tongue into your partner’s eardrums or throat. It can be a complete turn off if he/she feels the need to tilt his/her head (from having clogged ears) or feels the need to gag.
Don’t embarrass him/her. I once advised a client to ‘start foreplay early during the day’ and mentioned some of my ‘foreplay moves’ like rubbing against each other, dry humping, footsie playing, etc. Well, I guess my client got carried away as she tried footsie playing with him during a business dinner. She thought she was being ‘naughty’, he thought it was annoying. Moral lesson? Know WHEN to make your moves.
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For Him...
Don’t twirl, tweak and twist her nipples hard. No. Despite what you often see in adult films, she really doesn’t like it if you play too roughly with her nipples. They need to be caressed, not manhandled.
Don’t be the one to request to turn the lights off. Almost all women have body image issues. So don’t do her a favor by asking to have the lights off. In contrast, she’ll immediately think you find her body offensive in some way. If she’s not exactly the ‘cover girl’ type, don’t over compliment her either because she’ll know you’re lying. Instead, just tell her you prefer women with ‘curves’.
Don’t go for G-spot stimulation if you don’t know what the hell you’re doing! Sure, G-spot stimulation can bring her almost sexual nirvana but it can be painful for her if you don’t know what you’re doing. I’m not saying don’t attempt it. Rather, be very attuned to how she responds to your fingers.
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For Her...
Don’t ask him to wear a thong. Ladies, despite what you hear about the ‘metrosexual man’, don’t ask him to put on a thong. It really does turn most men OFF.
Don’t smother him. He’s gone down on you and boy do you love it! You’re delirious with pleasure and because of this you… try to squeeze your thighs shut and/or start to grab his hair and knead his face against your crotch. Well, let’s see what you’re REALLY doing to him hear. With the first one, you’re like a praying mantis trying to squeeze and rip his head off. With the second one, you’re making it hard for him to breathe! Ease up girls. Show your appreciation the RIGHT way and he’s bound to lick you to the ends of the earth again.
Don’t expect him to read your mind. One of the worse things you can do during foreplay is to expect him to know exactly what you want to happen. With this attitude, you’re really setting yourself (and him) for a foreplay disaster. Let him know that you like what he’s doing to you, or better yet, TELL him EXACTLY what you want done. He’ll appreciate it and you get what you want. Win-win!
Foreplay is all about increasing sexual tension in a way that is pleasurable for you and your partner in more than just the sexual sense. It should be in an atmosphere of comfort and trust, and maybe even with a hint of sexual danger, and not be forced or selfish in any way.
Think about this the next time you engage in foreplay with your partner and you’re bound to have a great and sexually thrilling time!
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Monday, April 5, 2010
How to Give Your Woman a Sexual Massage
Firstly, ask your woman to undress (or better yet, undress her). Another tip here to ensure good hygiene is to give her a warm bath first. Either way, once she’s nude, have her lie face down on the area you prepared for the massage. While she has her back to you, undress as well.
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Saturday, March 27, 2010
Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…
YOU’re not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.
Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…